Don’t Hate, Appreciate!

“There was once a man who was complaining about having one pair of shoes until he met a man with only one leg.”

Why is even there a need to hate someone when all you can do is just appreciate?

There was a period along with my journey when people were actually throwing a lot of negative comments on me, I had actually burdened myself so much that I was not able to fulfil my own task list. Pending blogs, pending shoot projects and what not. So, after all, that was happening to me, I was genuinely in a state of depression. I was so jumbled up, so confused and burn out and that the originality and the authenticity of my content were actually lacking and I must admit that a fear came over me. I was actually losing my touch on writing, creative concepts and humility.

I guess I forgot to acknowledge that even I’m a human being, right? I had just realized by that time that I had a big hole in my living. I forgot to stand still and get into a state of appreciation.

I was hating each and every minute of my life as that struggle actually broke me down into pieces. But what happened after that? Did I remain the same? Did I put those pieces back? Of course, I did. Am I happy now? Of course, I’m.  But you must be wondering how?

Two of the best concepts came over and changed the way I was living with all the mess that I had created and they were – “Find the solution and the appreciation list”.

 

  • FIND THE SOLUTION –

 

It’s not easy for someone to break the jail so easily as it requires patience and will to do. Find the solution has been one of the key concepts which I had taken into action when nothing was working out for me. Hatred is such a negative sphere that it can actually turn your chair and throw you on the ground. But how to tackle it? Next time when someone asks you for a help or in need, just tell him ‘Find the solution’.

We, humans, are so intricate that we focus all our energy on a singular thing when the circumstances aren’t on point. This simply means we tend to revolve our whole life for a stupid thing which is not even beneficial to our development. We see our problems with a magnifying glass which actually makes it bigger than it actually was before.

Every problem has a solution to it. If one of the doors is not opening, that doesn’t mean you have to keep banging your head. Try a different method and it might open for you.

 

  • STATE OF APPRECIATION –

 

 

A wise man never dwells on what he doesn’t have. He remains in constant appreciation of what he has already while being in pursuit of what he really wants.

The only thing that can actually fulfil us is gratitude – acknowledging and appreciating the beauty of what we have and what we want. When I ask people about what is actually important to them in their lives, I have always recorded the same answer – friends, family, faith and what not. Would you agree?

We search around for happiness in the dark and didn’t realize the fact that it has been with us for our whole life.

 

 

Wait, I have a solution –  Write a list. Whatever makes the list is a priority, and make reading the list a part of your daily routine. Appreciation is the ultimate feeling, as it is the only thing that reduces the ego from the body. This simple quality is again one of the essential parameters for success. It truly helps us enjoy the process of success because we go in with the attitude of “nothing to lose, everything to gain” and the courage follows up.

After you have made up the list, do read the list as soon as you wake up. Do this for a week, for a month or up to you. I have been doing this for a week and I have been feeling a lot of positivity in every area of living. When we complain, we become the victim. When we are the victims, we don’t get what we want in our life, we get more of what we don’t want.

You have the power to choose, you have the power to appreciate and you have the power to become the best version of yourself!

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I Am Nearly There..

Another day, another topic and I’m back with something great which will definitely help you in some way or the other. I just want to say a quick thank you from The Parallel Edit and Team to all of you who have been supporting and loving my work. You’ve literally changed my life!

 

 

Sometimes, It’s important to remind yourself from where have you started, how long do you have to go on your journey to achieve what you have always wanted and the resources you require to make sure you’re not occupied with stagnation on your path. It’s actually so easy to beat yourself up because you aren’t at the point where you were supposed to be exactly at the time when you started something fresh but trust me, that’s okay.

Like in the last blog post, I had mentioned about the individuals who attain excellent results in their initial months of training but what after 6 months or a year when all those approaches suddenly stop working? That’s where the real process starts.

This weekend I want all of you to focus your mind and energy on realising how far you have come and how close you really are. I want all of you to take a couple of hours free from your busy schedules and reflect on the fact, that how close you actually are on attaining that milestone you have always wished for, how much closer you’re now to your dreams than you were 5-10 years back.

I’m nearly there..

  • Just sit down for a while and think how can you improve. Aggregate thoughts, let them wander your mind for a while and find ways to better yourself in your day to day lifestyle.
  • Trust me, you’re actually just one or two steps away from grooving on to your path. One right decision can actually turn around things for you. Take your steps on the ladder very wisely.
  • You’re just a few steps away from getting everything sorted and lined up. It’s the time to blow the world with your ideas and talents.

After all those months of setbacks, failures, disappointments, messing up, lack of resources and capital to start my own business made me teach many a lesson which simply success and winning can never teach me. Nearly there.. is what I have always used as a mantra to get sorted when things weren’t right. I could actually feel it in my heart that I ain’t that far away.

 

 

I just want to conclude here by saying – Keep that craziness within you alive as this will fetch you many a place in your life. Find your 3 hobbies – one to make you money, one to keep you in shape and one to keep you creative!

Like I always say, from The Parallel Edit and Team, I sign off from this article. You’re open to giving your valuable feedback. Shoot me a mail or you can contact me anytime if you’re seeking some help.

Cheers to your success!

Arpit Pahwa aka The Parallel Edit

 

 

Please Don’t Settle!

Hey there, my lovely people! So, I know I’m super late this time in delivering a blog post. My Apology. Apparently, was just in a mind block and due to the same reason, was not able to write any content.

I didn’t start The Parallel Edit with the intention of turning it into a business. It began as a Free WordPress Blog in 2017 and that was meant to keep me inspired during a difficult time in my life. It’s not that I have been writing to entertain anyone here but to make sure, how can I get that motivation while living in the ‘demotivated phase of my life’.

I have been enjoying creating content that has seemed to resonate with so many people over all this time and that’s what I want you people to learn – to do something which you actually love and not like.

Don’t settle for less, don’t crave for more.

You know I’m just like you people. Gets easily bored, a risk taker, always colours outside the lines, think with my heart, make a lot of mistakes, hate the rules, believe in working independently but the most highlighting of them all, is I believe in dreaming big.

Create a good picture for a better living.

Start a process. Analyze your growth for the first 6 months. Maybe it won’t work out. Maybe it’s not going to go your way. Maybe, It’s just going to be another stupid idea you try, that doesn’t catch out. Maybe everyone will laugh at your failure but just follow this one simple principle and that is – “Please Don’t Settle!”

 

 

Think about it? How much better you would be or precisely, your life would be if you could change the conversation going in your head?

Someone close to me once said, as you get older and wiser as you go on your own journey, you will have to be your own mother, your own father, your own angel and your own teacher and after all this time I have found this true when it comes to communicating with myself.

Settling in failure can never give you a living you have always wanted to build. You have to keep moving, keep grinding in order to find some place and some light in this beautiful world.

Thereby, sharing my few personal tips to stay motivated and these are as follows-

  • Accomplish one thing in the morning, big or small
  • Use the momentum from it to go on.
  • Remind yourself why you’re alive!
  • Make a game out of your challenges
  • Take a photo of the best part that happened in your day
  • Talk to yourself in your free time. Communicating with yourself is necessary!
  • Recognize and show off your progress.
  • Celebrate other people’s success.
  • Be kind, fair and unafraid to speak up!

When you’re faced with a creativity block, what’s your strategy to get innovating? I value your feedback and don’t hesitate in writing me down with your strategies. Would surely love to read them up. Email me with your questions by tapping on the contact category.

Have a great week ahead!

Cheers to your success!

Arpit Pahwa

What’s Your Idea Of Change?

Have you ever found yourself to be as thin as a plastic bag drifting away by the wind or have you ever felt being buried six feet down and you’re not able to hear any scream?
This blog post is for you. This blog post is for all those who want to start again. Start, not from where they left, but from where they see the beginning of their next phase. It’s all about our mindset and to be precise, what I believe is that the ‘mindset’ has a key role in our lives, our experiences, everything we do, everyone we meet and what not. But at the end of the day, all we have is ‘ourselves’. It’s in our hands how we choose to see the world, everything and everyone around us.
Every second of every minute of every hour of every day and to the rest of our lives, we do have the opportunity to create something big out of this life, to give our lives a meaning out of all the emotions we go through. Remember the days you prayed for all those things you have now!
Being an entrepreneur and author, I have always seen life with a percept of plateaus and valleys. Here, plateaus refer to the upstream and valleys are downstream and trust me, that’s how each one of our life revolves. Intricate enough? That’s what life is.
Sometimes, we may find ourselves hopeless, less motivated and what not but at the end of the day it’s a strong will, a passionate heart and an ambitious mind which can fight against all the odds coming in the way. So, what’s your idea to bring a change in yourself for the betterment of yourself? Think about it!
For me, a person who stays positive in a negative situation is a winner. Even I have been in the darkest of times. Hopeless, wasn’t motivated enough, wasn’t happy with what was going on around me, felt like a beaten down old horse ready to be put down.
I believe we need to accept that every once in a while we will have that moment of failure or breakdown but we don’t have to be strict on ourselves at such a moment. Adrenaline running down your nerves telling you to run away instead of accepting it and trying for that one last time but it’s just you, just you who has to find the remedy and not the faults.

So, are you ready to bring on that change in you and ready to step into the next phase of your life?

You really can’t solve a problem by using the same kind of thinking you used when you created them. So, it’s the right time for a change. Don’t waste time in feeling sorry for yourself. Embrace the change and welcome the new challenges with open arms.
Believe in finding happiness in small things, but don’t waste your energy on all those things you can’t control. Audacity is what makes a human afraid, as being mediocre is what we have always learned. Break the shell and create a change for yourself and by yourself.
Grow, Develop and Evolve!
I hope you had a great time reading this article. Let me know your ideas as well. Just tap on the contact section and mail me your words at the ID given there.
See you in the next one, my lovely people!
TA’DA