Creative Genes Vs Work Jeans

“There’s no talent here, there is hard work. This is an obsession. Talent does not exist, we all are human beings. You could be anyone if you put in the time. You will reach the top. I’m not talented, I’m obsessed.”

 

 

It’s really been a long time and I haven’t posted anything on my website. But you know what? You people have been constantly giving me the motivation to write, write a lot. Thank you for pushing me every time I feel like, I don’t belong to this community of writers.

After reading a lot of articles and blogs on the subjects hustle science, neuroplasticity and brain engineering, one of the biggest myth’s I had was broken. I have always been of the opinion that creativity is something that you either have, or you don’t. That, some people are just born creative.

 

 

I don’t believe that for a moment.

What I believe in now is, your thoughts have to be continuously entertained and channelized which makes your vision more clear, well developed and much easier for your thoughts to deliver.

It has actually been a year of working, here on my website. I still remember the first blog post I wrote, the second one as well and subsequently, each one and you want to know how? My obsession for writing, reading and making people educate has helped me enormously. It’s only easier now because I have spent hours reading, writing and developing thoughts along these channels that I’m obsessed with.

The ‘creative genes’ doesn’t exist. The ‘work jean’does.

I consider myself a hustler, a workaholic, the person that doesn’t rely on talent. I’m a writer and educator, first and foremost. I’m obsessed and I wasn’t born creative. I have developed this obsession and now, channelizing it with my vision.

Creativity comes with a deeply-rooted connection with your childhood and I believe, if you can simply connect with your inner child, you will eventually, stop worrying about the results that you expect. You will simply work to become better out of pure enjoyment.

 

 

Doing such a thing is prominent, the first step towards creating something which will not even your life but perhaps, other lives as well. I just want people to fall in love with the damn process and stop discounting the creators as gifted.

Everyone has been born with something, but it’s your consistent and persistent actions that will really take your creativity to another level.

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Falling Doesn’t Mean Failing!

Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience, anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand on your own two feet, anything you hate is teaching you, unconditional love, anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.

 

 

Don’t you think we live in a society where there is a notion of misinterpreting these two common words that are falling and failing? Why do people do that? Do they feel scared when it comes to accepting failures? It’s not easy to accept setbacks, disappointments and if you’re a person who is reluctant to accept the real truth then, this blog post is definitely for you.

 

 

EVEN WHEN I CAN’T SEE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL, I STILL BELIEVE IT’S THERE!

 

I have always viewed life in three major acts and these are Challenge, Owning it, and Using it to guide others. Ask this from yourself, how many challenges have you actually faced in your life, whether it be small or big, were you able to find the solution to it? Are you actually owning your life or you still give that charge to your parents? Are you capable enough to work for your dreams and visions? Do you have a vision or just whiling away your time here waiting for the right time to come or the miracle to happen?

The concept of failing was only created by those who were too scared to succeed, and exist in the same world as “giving up”. There is no such thing as failure; instead, everything is knowledge we can put into practice. Once you stick to the belief of feedbacks and improvements, there will not be any failures and just constant learning from the downfall and henceforth, self-improvement.

 

 

Well, consider a person who’s been hit with n number of rocks in a continuous succession. So, one of the rocks actually hit him on his head. Is he a failure just because he fell or he’s not able to fight? I hope you’re understanding this not so simple concept well.

Your journey will test you in enormous ways possible, will try to hit you hard and break you into pieces, self-doubts taking over at each step, pessimism being surmounted everywhere but how can one make it out of the water when being drowned? A shift in focus changes everything. Let your self-assurance take over your self-beliefs because these beliefs are actually made by us.

The no.1 reason why a person falls because he’s more of into appreciating the outcome than loving the goddamn process and why does a person fail? Simple, because he doesn’t even know what he wants and what he doesn’t want.

 

 

When you’re unaware of your own self, your own dimensions, this creates an imbalance leading to constant failures. It’s important to interact with yourself and you should know yourself better. The better the understanding and interaction is, the better you can adjust your sails even if you can’t change the direction of the wind.

 

 

PROCESS >>> OUTCOME

PROCESS ENCOURAGES EXPERIMENTATION

 

Mastering any area of your life will require exploration, adjustment and improvisation since you can’t always know your destination in advance. Prepare your mind for a long-term haul as your mind will be consumed for hundreds and thousands of falls and failures and all you need to invest is in making and correcting your previous mistakes and starting over.

 

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Don’t Hate, Appreciate!

“There was once a man who was complaining about having one pair of shoes until he met a man with only one leg.”

Why is even there a need to hate someone when all you can do is just appreciate?

There was a period along with my journey when people were actually throwing a lot of negative comments on me, I had actually burdened myself so much that I was not able to fulfil my own task list. Pending blogs, pending shoot projects and what not. So, after all, that was happening to me, I was genuinely in a state of depression. I was so jumbled up, so confused and burn out and that the originality and the authenticity of my content were actually lacking and I must admit that a fear came over me. I was actually losing my touch on writing, creative concepts and humility.

I guess I forgot to acknowledge that even I’m a human being, right? I had just realized by that time that I had a big hole in my living. I forgot to stand still and get into a state of appreciation.

I was hating each and every minute of my life as that struggle actually broke me down into pieces. But what happened after that? Did I remain the same? Did I put those pieces back? Of course, I did. Am I happy now? Of course, I’m.  But you must be wondering how?

Two of the best concepts came over and changed the way I was living with all the mess that I had created and they were – “Find the solution and the appreciation list”.

 

  • FIND THE SOLUTION –

 

It’s not easy for someone to break the jail so easily as it requires patience and will to do. Find the solution has been one of the key concepts which I had taken into action when nothing was working out for me. Hatred is such a negative sphere that it can actually turn your chair and throw you on the ground. But how to tackle it? Next time when someone asks you for a help or in need, just tell him ‘Find the solution’.

We, humans, are so intricate that we focus all our energy on a singular thing when the circumstances aren’t on point. This simply means we tend to revolve our whole life for a stupid thing which is not even beneficial to our development. We see our problems with a magnifying glass which actually makes it bigger than it actually was before.

Every problem has a solution to it. If one of the doors is not opening, that doesn’t mean you have to keep banging your head. Try a different method and it might open for you.

 

  • STATE OF APPRECIATION –

 

 

A wise man never dwells on what he doesn’t have. He remains in constant appreciation of what he has already while being in pursuit of what he really wants.

The only thing that can actually fulfil us is gratitude – acknowledging and appreciating the beauty of what we have and what we want. When I ask people about what is actually important to them in their lives, I have always recorded the same answer – friends, family, faith and what not. Would you agree?

We search around for happiness in the dark and didn’t realize the fact that it has been with us for our whole life.

 

 

Wait, I have a solution –  Write a list. Whatever makes the list is a priority, and make reading the list a part of your daily routine. Appreciation is the ultimate feeling, as it is the only thing that reduces the ego from the body. This simple quality is again one of the essential parameters for success. It truly helps us enjoy the process of success because we go in with the attitude of “nothing to lose, everything to gain” and the courage follows up.

After you have made up the list, do read the list as soon as you wake up. Do this for a week, for a month or up to you. I have been doing this for a week and I have been feeling a lot of positivity in every area of living. When we complain, we become the victim. When we are the victims, we don’t get what we want in our life, we get more of what we don’t want.

You have the power to choose, you have the power to appreciate and you have the power to become the best version of yourself!

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How To Become The Best Version Of Yourself?

You are here in this world for three main reasons. The first one is to experience as many different things as possible and enjoy life to the full. The second one is to create, contribute, share, and leave a positive legacy behind.

And the third reason why you’re here on this planet is to improve, evolve, grow and become the best version of yourself.

 

 

Another day, another blog post and another story which might trail down to motivate you in some way or the other.

Before sleeping and after waking up, do ask this question to yourself that ‘what kind of person do you want to be?’

I mean everybody wants to be rich, wants to have a good lifestyle and most importantly ‘have it all’.

With time, I have noticed three ugly qualities that resist a human to become his/her best version and that is –

  • Greed
  • Vanity
  • Addiction

 

  • Having It All –

I have actually come across people who have a tendency of equating their success with ‘having it all’, but this can end up a slippery slope. The appetite for success develops into greed.

 

 

I have met many bloggers and influencers who were unhappy, negative people. It surprised me because It looked like they had it all. But deep down they hadn’t done the work of figuring out what kind of person they wanted to be.

Let me ask you the same question again, What kind of person do you want to be? 

  • Vanity –

Living in a culture of entertainment and celebrities, a lot of people succumb to vanity. I mean we all want to look good, isn’t it?

 

 

Recently, I was just passing from a gym and saw a man with a good built, shaved legs and ripped. I don’t know but after having all that which we humans consider as ‘perfect’, I found that man to be very unhappy. You know what the problem is? We spend an enormous amount of time, energy and money in improving our looks and developing our character.

Becoming the best version of yourself is far away from just sculpted muscles, waxed chests and whitened teeth. It requires intellectual enrichment, empathy, sacrifice for others and the most important quality – Kindness!

 

  • All things in Moderation –

 

 

Perhaps, more than vanity and greed, addiction account for the grief in most people lives. The problem is that we like some things way too much. We pursue them at all costs and become addicted.

Living in a country like India where addictions are just accounted for drinking alcohol and sexual misbehaviour, there are so many other addictions out there which are neglected –  Social media addiction, food addiction, addiction to drama, even healthy pursuits like fitness can become a destructive addiction.

 

 

Addictions can be treated. Simply ask yourself what kind of person you want to be? The answer will come to you and then what? Begin the process right away. You can always make changes and become the best version.

No matter who you’re, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change and become a better version of yourself!


That’s all for today. You can write me down on arpitpahwa4@gmail.com or can easily connect with me on any of my social handles given in the right-hand sidebar.

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Have a great week, ahead!

See you in the next one!

TA’DA

 

 

What I Do When I Can’t Focus

Are you struggling to finish your tasks? Are you always distracted by notifications, gossiping, or anything that’s random?

 

 

In that case, you and I are alike. And you know what? Focusing on a single thing is probably one of the hardest things at work.

There’s always something that interrupts you, right?

  • Another person
  • A phone call
  • A meeting
  • A false emergency

Sure, you can blame on these things but that’s weak. You and I, we both know that things can’t interrupt you without your permission. And that simply means that every time you’re not focused, you’re simply giving someone or something the permission to invade your mind.

Scary, isn’t it?

Your life will never benefit just by looking at Instagram or Facebook, watching useless Youtube videos and reading negative articles.

 

 

So, what can you do to improve your focus? Here, are 2 things that I always do when I find myself not being able to focus on what really matters to me.

  • ELIMINATE – 

Every day, we accumulate stuff. We accumulate ideas. It’s the human tendency to make the ideas which are exposed openly as their own. Funny, isn’t it? Have you ever thought about that?

 

 

Okay, so let me take up my own example here. Being a writer, I constantly observe so many things around me on a regular basis. People actually come up and give me n number of ideas which I actually appreciate and one such idea was of starting a YouTube Channel. I built the strategy, I worked on creating a model for it. But there was just problem –  It consumes too much of my time and attention and as a consequence of it, I have to spend less time on writing and creating new articles. I thought of doing only that thing in which my time was fruitfully strategized and organized and that’s how eliminating comes into place. Eliminating is a key strategy that I use in many aspects of my life and so want you to focus on.

It’s important to figure out what you need to eliminate from your lives to make it completely organized, simple and that it’s easy to focus on?

If you’re struggling with focusing your mind on a single thing, try this strategy. Make your life simple and that’s a breeze to live.

  •  THINK ABOUT YOUR PAST SUCCESS- 

 

 

So, 2017 was actually the best year of my life as my passion for working as a writer came into existence and that’s how I started with my own blogging website. It’s never easy to step forward and take critics and that’s what helped me to grow – as a person and as a writer. The life of a blogger starts with the booming stats in the first six months but what after a year or so when the audience gets bored with your creative content? That’s where you have to start with your next strategy!

All you need to do is remember all those positive events that happened in the past. That’s a strategy to overcome your cold phases and runs a stream of positive energy levels in your blood.

Have you ever heard of the neurotransmitter, Serotonin? Serotonin is present on the right side of the brain and is responsible for all your emotional and creative nature. To improve your focus, boost your serotonin activity. When serotonin goes up, your focus goes up. Ultimately, that’s what you should do.

When I can’t focus, the first thing I do is acknowledge the problem and the solution required to correct that problem. Some people go through life without even acknowledging they have problems.

Focus on your life. Think about what matters to you. Do those things and don’t get distracted. Learn to stay on the path!

From The Parallel Edit & Team, I’ll see you in the next one!

TA’DA

 

 

 

SUCCESS IN SEVEN WORDS

If I ask you to sum up all that happened in your life in just six words, what do you think those words will be? Are you capable enough to define them in just six words?

Firstly, this blog post is for all those who find happiness and a sense of satisfaction in working hard. If you’re looking at improving your insights over and above the hard work that you put in, then you probably will gain substantially from this post. Being an entrepreneur, I have seen people falling hard, stagnate, and some even at their worst stage. For a while, I just had a thought and tried figuring out what actually makes people successful and soon I realised that there is no cookie-cutter approach to being successful.

 

 

Trust me, It’s not that tougher as you think. Just a few behaviour changes, some management methods and perhaps a combination of both of them can lead you to your destination.

Success in Seven Words

Is it really true? Here, in this post, I have tried to reproduce connections for your benefit, hopefully, which will make you think better. Let’s find out!

  • See your Goal –

You cannot just expect yourself to reach where you have always wanted to, without having any vision. Like I always say, just sitting there and thinking will not turn that one rupee into those million dollars you have been wishing for. Go out there, express yourself and do something. Arpit, what’s your biggest resource? Your brain. Extract out the information and write down on a piece of paper and start implementing them in sections. The easier you take things, the better will be the flow.

  • Understand the obstacles –

The one who understands his circumstances well, the one who can easily understand his obstacle well will always stand with a head held high and you know why? Some people see obstacles as a puzzle to solve. Some see obstacles as an opportunity to grow. Others see obstacles as threats. Still, others see obstacles as meaning they cannot succeed. Your view of barriers to achieving your goals affects how you react.

  • Create a positive mental picture –

Trust me, our vision is just a series of mental pictures. These pictures are stored as our version of “reality.” We did not intentionally put these pictures in our minds, they were accumulated by where we lived, who we are around and our family values. Try to make them as beautiful as you can and the next step is just your hard work. Are you ready for it?

  • Clear your mind of self-doubt –

Doubting your potential, doubting your inner self will not get you anywhere. It’s worth repeating: self-doubt must be examined if it prevents you from living an enriching life. Cut the negativity within you and shift your mind towards the world full of positivity.

To overcome self-doubt requires affirmative action while being attentive to the inner critic — that is, you take action in spite of the doubt.

  • Embrace the challenge –

Challenges reveal our limitations and strengths at the same time. We are human. We are finite. We are limited. We don’t know everything. And certainly cannot do everything. Challenges offer us a platform to rise above the natural and connect with the Supernatural. Take up the opportunity, analyse the condition of the pitch, analyse the requirement and then play your shot. Don’t panic, the ball will definitely come on to you, you just got to pay attention and take up the challenge with your open arms.

  • Stay on track –

You and only you know, what you’re capable of doing. Nurture your craft well and it will pay you off later in your life. Distractions can get you off but you just have to make sure to stick your leg on the path you have chosen. Focus on fewer goals, plan ahead of your time ( to some extent ), set milestones and don’t forget to track your progress.

  • Show the world you can do it! – 

It’s the right time to step forward and choose your own way. Show them what you’re capable of producing but don’t forget to keep away from people who try to belittle you or your ambitions. Small people tend to do that, but the really great one will make you feel that you, too, can become great.

So, as the letters are highlighted above, you can easily make out how easy getting to success is provided with your consistent efforts to make that possible.

 

 

Don’t downgrade your dreams to match your reality. Upgrade your faith to match your vision.

I hope you had a good time reading this one. Will see you in the next article!

TA’DA

 

Live Life On Your Terms!

The life of an entrepreneur just exists between the fine line of being crazy and genius at the same time. In order to be able to live on your own terms, you will have to first align yourself with the goal you’re currently working on, swim upstream, become aware, and not give a shit about what others think as criticism can actually affect the mindset which can lead to a negative impact on your life. The one who understands the circumstances, the one who remembers how hard he/she has fought to be at the position they are currently on, and still stood there after all the grinding, are actually winners. It will always be the hardest times that will make you who you’re today.

Here are just a few quick reminders that can help you in your quest to make your own kind of music.

  • Think about yourself – 

Considering yourself on the primary spot is necessary as you’re the one who’ll be going to take the lead further. On every step, keep asking yourself the same question, why me? Question everything. If you accept everything you are told you will be manipulated. Blind trust has caused the world’s greatest miseries. Question the outer world as well as examine your own conscious thoughts and feelings.

  • Don’t care so much what others will think – 

Caring so much about others can what make your decisions, imperfect. There is no truth, only perceptions. Block those illusions, only what you think of yourself matters. Work on yourself, for yourself and by yourself. Things will affect only if you allow them to invade. Criticism will be shown at each and every area of your life and that’s where your main job has to be constantly thriving to attain what you have always dreamt of.

  • Find out what matters the most to you! –

If you’re smart enough to channelise your priorities in life, trust me no one can stop you to reach where you have always wanted to. Channelising ourself has to be the most overlooked factor in our lifestyle and that’s where many of us struggle to recognize our strengths. Call it your purpose, your calling or just that what ticks the box for you but please don’t settle. The best resource all you have now is ‘Time’. 

My favourite thing in life doesn’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most important and precious resource all we have is time!

  • Never give up control – 

Take charge in every area of your life. Know what you want. Take control. There’s a world of difference between proactive living and reactive drifting. Don’t try to be perfect, just believe in getting better and smarter than what you were yesterday. Never stop learning!

Hire Character, Train Skill!

  • Take responsibility for your own happiness – 

Don’t give your happiness and self-worth out of hands.  See yourself as the most important person in your life. This way, by saying I love you to someone else, you are giving something truly valuable instead of just wanting them to fill a gap in your dignity.

Happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone else that much power over your life.

  • Choose your own path – 

Road (life) is full of milestones (accomplishments), hoardings (directions) and if one figure out them well, it’s very easy to reach your destination (dream).  It doesn’t matter how fast you travel but what matters is how far you travel. Running too fast can thrash you down, running too slow can lag you behind. Maintain your speed depending on the circumstance, and accordingly, implement your decisions.

 

 

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That’s all for today. I just want to end this with a note for you all!

Surround yourself with five types of people;  the inspired, the passionate, the motivated, the grateful and the open-minded.  How do you find someone who encourages your growth, invests in you, supports your vision, shows you the potential you don’t see in yourself and falls in love with you daily?

Start by becoming that person for yourself!

Signing off from the today’s discussion. See you in the next one!

TA’DA