Don’t Hate, Appreciate!

“There was once a man who was complaining about having one pair of shoes until he met a man with only one leg.”

Why is even there a need to hate someone when all you can do is just appreciate?

There was a period along with my journey when people were actually throwing a lot of negative comments on me, I had actually burdened myself so much that I was not able to fulfil my own task list. Pending blogs, pending shoot projects and what not. So, after all, that was happening to me, I was genuinely in a state of depression. I was so jumbled up, so confused and burn out and that the originality and the authenticity of my content were actually lacking and I must admit that a fear came over me. I was actually losing my touch on writing, creative concepts and humility.

I guess I forgot to acknowledge that even I’m a human being, right? I had just realized by that time that I had a big hole in my living. I forgot to stand still and get into a state of appreciation.

I was hating each and every minute of my life as that struggle actually broke me down into pieces. But what happened after that? Did I remain the same? Did I put those pieces back? Of course, I did. Am I happy now? Of course, I’m.  But you must be wondering how?

Two of the best concepts came over and changed the way I was living with all the mess that I had created and they were – “Find the solution and the appreciation list”.

 

  • FIND THE SOLUTION –

 

It’s not easy for someone to break the jail so easily as it requires patience and will to do. Find the solution has been one of the key concepts which I had taken into action when nothing was working out for me. Hatred is such a negative sphere that it can actually turn your chair and throw you on the ground. But how to tackle it? Next time when someone asks you for a help or in need, just tell him ‘Find the solution’.

We, humans, are so intricate that we focus all our energy on a singular thing when the circumstances aren’t on point. This simply means we tend to revolve our whole life for a stupid thing which is not even beneficial to our development. We see our problems with a magnifying glass which actually makes it bigger than it actually was before.

Every problem has a solution to it. If one of the doors is not opening, that doesn’t mean you have to keep banging your head. Try a different method and it might open for you.

 

  • STATE OF APPRECIATION –

 

 

A wise man never dwells on what he doesn’t have. He remains in constant appreciation of what he has already while being in pursuit of what he really wants.

The only thing that can actually fulfil us is gratitude – acknowledging and appreciating the beauty of what we have and what we want. When I ask people about what is actually important to them in their lives, I have always recorded the same answer – friends, family, faith and what not. Would you agree?

We search around for happiness in the dark and didn’t realize the fact that it has been with us for our whole life.

 

 

Wait, I have a solution –  Write a list. Whatever makes the list is a priority, and make reading the list a part of your daily routine. Appreciation is the ultimate feeling, as it is the only thing that reduces the ego from the body. This simple quality is again one of the essential parameters for success. It truly helps us enjoy the process of success because we go in with the attitude of “nothing to lose, everything to gain” and the courage follows up.

After you have made up the list, do read the list as soon as you wake up. Do this for a week, for a month or up to you. I have been doing this for a week and I have been feeling a lot of positivity in every area of living. When we complain, we become the victim. When we are the victims, we don’t get what we want in our life, we get more of what we don’t want.

You have the power to choose, you have the power to appreciate and you have the power to become the best version of yourself!

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Hate is Heavy!

Howdy, Readers!

So, how did you people spent your new year? I hope everyone had a good start to 2018.

Looking forward to writing more and more for you people and in return, expect the same love and support, you people have been giving me for the past few months. Cheers to this new start!

So, Ruchika Kachroo is the guest blogger for this first post of 2018. An avid reader, an excellent writer and yes, a good friend of mine. I have been reading her work on Quora and believe me, her expression of writing is phenomenal.

Let’s find out what she has to say about this topic. Let’s get started!

Is hate Heavy?

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

What exactly is hatred?

Hate is a toxic energy, which can wear many different masks, but behind them, all dwells the same thing — fear. Have you ever carried the burden of hate? I know how hard it is to let it go. Irrespective of how the hate shows up, when our body takes up intense feelings of hate, we are the ones who suffer; we isolate ourselves from life and actually end up holding ourselves a prisoner from happiness.

 

Sadder yet is the burden of hate that many are immersed in because the people around them taught them how to take hate as a way of life, even before they could talk. There is no question that this kind of hate is born in the womb of fear, which often outstands itself as an over-inflated sense of superiority, intolerance and arrogance. This is sad because it really boils down to a lack of understanding of others who may be different than they — fueled by fear.

How to set yourself free from the toxicity of hate?

The good news is, if willing, we can set ourselves free of toxicity of hate today. How? by Sticking to love. If we feel the burden of hate weighing heavy upon our heart, do some self-enquiry today; if you find any sense of hate lingering in the corners of your mind, shed the light of love on it and watch it dissolve. Hate exists in the darkness and in a sense of separation from God (light). Just as darkness cannot exist in the presence of light, fear cannot maintain its existence in the presence of love.

Stick with love; you’ll lighten your burden and the planet will be a better place as well for the next seven generations to come.

Here, are some few points you can consider to set yourself free from the toxicity of hate.

  • Don’t let the power of hatred affect you or change you in any case. Hold on to yourself, If the hatred must change you, let it only make you stronger and kinder.
  • Keep track of the ways in which your hatred, anger, emotions, and judgements affect your behaviour and relationships.
  • Choose three role models whose compassion and kindness inspire you. They can be anyone and you just have to let them inspire you to be a kinder, more compassionate person.
  • Spend time doing things that feel meaningful and fulfilling to you.
  • Let go; Be you!

So, these were the few points you should have in your mind as hatred has never made anyone successful or rich. With the beginning of this new year, It’s important to write each chapter with a good mark and then, all you have to do is maintain yourself as a consistent and persistent character.

That’s all for today. I hope you’ll defintely make a mark and be consistent and persistent in whatever you choose to work on. All the best!

Thanks, Ruchika, for giving your precious time in writing this content with The Parallel Edit.

Check out her work on Quora – https://www.quora.com/profile/Ruchika-Kachroo-1

See you in the next one, my lovely people!

TA’DA